My Father is Waiting For Her

My sister and I are not seeing eye to eye anymore and she has decided to tell me what to do and how to do it and thinks that I know nothing of my mom.  I did post something about what she told me on FB and she got all huffy about me taking it down.  She cussed which didn't look good on her and the way she said it didn't look good on her either.  She treats me like a child and well I am the oldest and she will not treat me like that.  I refuse that for anyone. My sister harps on her money and how she is spending it and got a Power Of Attorney, (which my sister will not give me the name or number of because I will not remove my post.  Silly! to deal with all that and then she called me and told me some things that I didn't ask about.  My mom is upset with her doing that all the time.  My suster calls her every day and does this and my mom is tired of it.  I never talk about her finances but we do know about them and how much she gets deposited in her bank every month and it is not from anything from my dad or the Will.  My sister knows nothing about that.  I do hope she stops doing that.  

She mentioned to me that mom had gone into the hosptial and that she was trying to use toothpase as viginal cream.  She has a very bad Urinary Tract Infection.  That is a side effect of one of the drugs that she is one.  My suste tells me that I don't know what I am talking about.  What she doesn't know is every time she calls me I do call my mom.  I may not get ot talk to her but I do ask questions form the care givers that help her on a daily basis.  My sister told me that she will not tell me anything about my mom until I take what I said down.  Not happening!  I call mom often as I can and I like to let her get her rest and them not get her up if she is sleeping.

Last time I called when I posted that thing she did not like was asking why they would put vaginal cream and toothpaste near each other in a bathroom cabinet.  I never mentioned anybody's name. Come to find out nobody in my mom's house had vagianl cream in the whole house. So my sister told me to take it down and that was her fault for starting that negative comment on public for all to see.  She has my e-mail address now and refuses to use it or even read it. I told her that she can stop telling me about mom because she has held information form ie in the past.  I will never forgive her for not telling me abut my father's gravesite for four years.  Oh she just tole me that she contacted me when that happened but she didn't even know my e-mail address and she still does not use it now that she has it. So it will not not bother me because I will talk to my mom and not wait for her to call me, which I don't think she can. I called and told all the caregivers that I would like to be called first when my mom has to go into the hospital from now  on.  I am the oldest and about time that my sister realizes this and my mom too.  People think that my mom should have been the one to tell me about my father. That is here nor there now, but still  hurts like hell.

Here is what I do know about my mome, that my sister doesn't think that I do.

The night that she was taken to the hospital she hadn't slept in 2 days, my sister told me 5 days.  My mom was out of her mind then and told here caregivers that she was not home.  She has lived in her home for many years.  She had a caregiver that was not on the up and up and she thinks that she took her to a place on mainstreet and won't let her come back to the house that she lives in.  She said that she would not be there long.  She also pooped in her pants in the hospital and in the car.  That is a side effect of one of the drugs that she is on.  I know this for a fact because I was on that drug for a very short time.  Yet I don't know what I am talking about. This is why I would like for her to be taken off all the drugs that she is on for about a month.  She needs to detox. She is Diabetic but I don't think that she is because of what I have gone through and have written about. Yes I have told this to some of the cregivers and my suster too.  

There are ways that you can reverse Diabetes ands what I am doing that my suster doesn't think that I know these things just because I will not do as they want me to or she says to do. Here is the link to that article and one of my friends that has done this says it is true.  80% of Diabetics Can Reverse Their Disease – Here’s How 

They put mom on a new drug that makes her calmer that she was, but they say that she needs to be watched as she sleeps all the time now. That bothers me. What other side effects will there be with that one and mixing withe the other drugs she is on. Oh and my mom is wondering what drugs she is taking too because when we were there a few visits ago she asked one of the caregivers what drugs she was taking and she told her just drugs.  That worried me!

Her story about how she and my father met is a wonderous one and I think it is the way that she will go from this world to the next.

My father graduated the year before her and he waited for her until the day of graduation.  He them came up to to her and asked her if she was ready.  She didn't know what she was to be ready for.  He said to be married.  They were married soon after, I think the day after or so. 

 

He is waiting for her this time to be ready too.  I got that feeling when she said about being in that other house and she will not be there long and she was kind of a prisoner there from that caregiver. That caregiver was fired long ago and the pull that she still has on my mom is strange.