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| Melissa Dawn Anderson born 1/2/1977 |
I was a teen and I had thoughts about my future as any teens
would have. I took a test to get into a
Nursing school. I wanted so much to be
one and I had a mentor. She was my real
Aunt but a really good friend of my Grandmother and her sisters. My sister and I called her Aunt Vivian. What a wonderful person she was. She was a Nurse too and that is how I wanted
to be. I got 95 percentile on the test
and was ready to go to college. Well I
was stopped in my tracts because the school that I was going to and it was a
local school too decided they could not afford to be open anymore. Uhhgh.
That was a bummer.
I wanted my own career and be a mom and have a house and a
husband too. You know that “American
Dream”. Well so I thought things would
pan out just like that. Now there are
people who say that you set your goals and you attain them, we I can assure you
that it only happens to some people. I
have also been asked to set a goal for the next 5 years, and I can also assure
you that doesn’t always pan out either.
Oh I have asked many of my classmates and some of them said that their
life did not turn out the same as they envisioned when they were still in 12th
grade ready to be thrust into the world.
It was about the time that I got that news that the school
would no longer be there that I got that “knowing” as in being told to me that
I would be getting married soon and that it would not be a traditional
way. WT Heck was that all about. So I ignored that. Sure enough I got pregnant and guess what
that is…a sort of shotgun wedding. My
boyfriend had his own career and life plans.
He wanted to be an Electrical Engineer. When I got pregnant I had another
knowing: The baby was a girl.
I was working at a local Fast Food place. I had been fainting just walking across the
room from the prep room to the office. I
did not know that I was fainting and did not miss any time or had time
lapses. The Manager took me into his
office and told me about all this strange activity that I was having. He told me that I better get checked out by a
Doctor. So I did.
The news that came back was one of I kind of knew what it
was going to be but hoped like all get out that it wasn’t. This is how it all went prior to this news:
Both of us had jobs, but they were
those kinds that you just start out with.
Well I went to see him after work one day and we made love but before we
did that I told him that I was going to get pregnant. He didn’t listen to me. After we finished I was really looking for a
bottle of coke to make it fizz and wash out his seed from within my body. I could not find one in the time that one was
supposed to use it. So I kind of knew
that I was pregnant then. That was the
vision and the “knowing” that I had previously.
Oh My Gee! I tried so hard for
this NOT TO HAPPEN, but it did anyway.
The child that I would be carrying really wanted to be here. I could do nothing about it.
I watched a very old movie one day and it was about a child
that wanted to be born in the worst way.
She and other children picked their parents. Well the couple that she chose weren’t ready
to have children…at least the man wasn’t.
You can watch the movie Trailer:
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I find out and I am at work.
I try to compose myself but I couldn’t and left work. I tell
my boyfriend and he really wasn’t all the happy with the news either. So we decide to tell his parent’s first. The reaction from them was astonishing to say
the least. Oh it wasn’t that we were
going to have a baby and were not married yet.
It was more of the tune of, “are you sure he is the father”.
I was left to tell my parents the news myself. Someone else gave my mother a heads up. So I told my mother that we were getting
married. She went off the deep end and
said that I was pregnant. Well I was and
so I took that abuse. The next thing
that happened was surreal. I had many
friends that surmised that I was being abused by my mom. I did not know about any of it and what they
knew. This is going to knock your socks
off with what I had to endure during the first months of pregnancy. I sure hoped this child knew what she was
doing.
My mother had made an appointment and pre-paid for an
abortion for me. She was going to take
me the next day. You heard it
right! She had paid for me to have an
abortion. I did not believe in
that. I also knew this child wanted to
be here. I could not do that. Let me repeat myself: I COULD NOT DO THAT.
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| Missy 1st grade |
Now the saving part of all this is that some of my friends
whisked me away for a few days to another place and a great family. It felt odd
to say the least but I was there for about 3 days or maybe 4. I do not remember how long it was now. They were really nice. Some things are a blur to me now, and I do
not remember where I went after that. I
do now that my future mother-in-law was a seamstress and we went out and she
purchased the material so that she could make my wedding dress. That is where I learned the tricks to
sewing. Oh I took sewing in high school,
but they only teach you what to do via the patterns. My ex mother-in-law taught me all kinds of
secrets.
Pregnancy did not bode well with my body. I drank lots of
Mylanta. I had to quite work because the
smell of the oil in the vats made me nauseated.
I ate like a horse. I mean I
started out being 89 pounds wet. The
Obstetricians had bets about me reaching 100 pounds! I was 96 pounds when I delivered her.
She didn’t come normally either. She was a kicker and she was high up into my
abdomen. Well one day she kicked and she
was not upside down like they normally come and it was not even her real due
date. She kicked down into the birth
canal. I had to have a C-Section. They could not turn her as her foot was stuck
in the canal. I was scared, very
scared. I had never had an operation on
my body before. I was 20 years old! They told me that my husband would come up
with me during the labor part. Well he
never was able to come up to be with me.
That made me mad!!! Then what
happened next will surprise you as it did me.
I wanted to punch my husband…..seriously.
He came to me after I delivered and I was on the bed in the
hallway waiting to be put in a room. I
can remember this to this day. He said,
“Put it back, I wanted a boy”. I kid you
not.
I love this person to the moon and back and even to the upteenth galaxy and back.
She is gifted and that was hard raising her, but I stood my her all the way through school. She is a very intelligent woman and knows what she wants and the steps that it takes to get them. She has patience and she is a strong woman.
She has her own family now. What a beautiful life she has chosen and I am glad that I had the chance to bring her here to experience all that she is to have here. I am so interested to know what she was really here for that she could not wait.
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| Teigen Quinn, Melissa Dawn Anderson McCallum, Rourke Pierce and Nate McCallum 2014 |
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