Why Does My Mother Hate Me?

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A couple of years ago I got it in my head to find out what my mother was taking for her medications. I did some research about her sebaceous cysts and found that it runs in the family and it is from a Dairy allergy. It is from a protein in the dairy itself. I also remembered her telling me about her Diabetes II and what her doctor at the time told her about the drugs he was going to be putting her on. She said that he told her that if she did not feel better in a year then he would take her off of them. Well many drugs and years later she is still on them. It is unnatural what she looks like now and all the pain that she is in. Here is how the story went down and why she wants me to hate her.

What Causes The Cysts

This is a picture of a Sebaceaous Cyst.
It is not mine, but they do get this big like over night and that is not made up.

I researched for over six years to find a cause. It was like finding the proverbial needle in the haystack. I performed numerous experiments using my own body as a test subject. For many years it was believed to be some sort of hormonal abnormality. I didn't have them growing up. I never even had that dreaded teen scourge of acne.

Through my own research I have found them to be genetic to some degree as my mother and my youngest daughter also have a problem with them. I didn't start to get them until after the birth of my oldest daughter in 1977.

Now the real shocker, I've found that they are caused by comsuming a natural chemical compound found in milk. Yes, Milk. Most people have told me that it must be from all the antibodies and hormones they feed to the cows which comes out in their milk, which it is not. I have also been told that it's just some form of lactose intolerance. That's what I originally thought but it's not that either.

CASEIN, a natural protein, which is found in milk is the cause of my getting Sebaceous Cysts. It's in all forms of cow's milk, including organic, goat's milk and is in all dairy products made from them. Because of this I am unable to eat cheese, butter or ice cream. I am able to consume items that are made with them in very small amounts.

It is a condition called and here is a support group for that if you suffer from it too. Hidradenitis Suppurativa supportgroup

I got all my research together and sent it off to her main physician.

I wrote a cover letter and added it to the package.

In that cover letter I explained the hereditary predispositions in our family and the symptoms and why we all have these same things. I now found out that it skipped my oldest daughter, but my grandsons have a problem with dairy consumption too. These symptoms do stop once you stop consuming this protein. It not that way at all. It is a more permanent type of thing. We all do not or try not to consume any dairy in our diets, even my daughter’s children.  We have to take it out of our diets altogether.

In the many pages of research it also had information on dairy that causes just about everything that she shows in her health from Dairy causing Diabetes II to High Blood Pressure to stomach ailments and much more.

I also told him NOT to tell my mother because she would get upset with me and to do his own research from the research that I provided him with.

Why are Doctor’s such BUTTHOLES!!??

He went and called my mother and told her that I had written to him. He even told her that what I gave him about our family was not true and that she did not have that.
All of us KNOWS that she does. I got the feeling that she was being used as a guinea pig or test subject.

Of course she called me and asked if I had sent anything to her doctor. I said that I did. I couldn’t get out of that and so I told her the truth.

She yelled at me over the phone and kept asking me why I did this. I kept telling her it was because I loved her and that I wanted to see her around much longer and to start to question things about her health.

She yelled at me and told me, “Don’t You Ever Do That Again”. I asked several times if she loved me and she did not answer me back.

I asked her if she wanted me to hate her because that is what I was or have always gotten from her and she did not say a word.

I didn’t know if she really wanted me to hate her or that she just didn’t have words to tell me, no.

Well if you have been reading my chapters you would surmise the same thing that I surmised and that is that she wants me to hate her.

It was really weird that her physician died in a freak accident two weeks later.

After he had told her to take Diabetic medicine she blew up like a balloon. That scared the beegeebees out of me and it is hard for me to see her like that. THAT was what caused me to really get into her health and drugs and medicines and that Doctor’s reasons for giving them to her. She told me that he told her that if she did not feel better in a year that he would take her off of that.  That has been over 5 years and she is still on them.  She is now sicker than she was before she started taking all those medicines. I have seen time and time again how Physician’s are catering to the Big Pharm and how they are using the elderly as guinea pigs. I saw all those red flags. She would die before she would listen to me. In fact, after I tried to tell her about the milk that was causing her problems, guess what she did……

She drank a 16 ounce glass of whole milk right in front of me. Ten minutes later she complained of her legs and feet hurting so bad that she could not stand. (She did it for spite and nothing else.) I told her so and that was what would happen. She did not believe me. She also gets really bad cysts on the insides of her legs and under her arms and in the private sections of her body. Just like I got and had to have them lanced. I do not have them anymore because I do know what causes them and I stay away from anything of dairy. I would also leave raw sugar packets there for them to use, but she would call me and tell me that they are there and that I left them there. I would tell them that they can use them…..she threw them away. I warned her of the Aspartame in all the diet drinks that they drank and they ignored me.

For months every time that I would call them she would get into it with me. I would hang up on her. I cannot talk to my mom in anyway because I can talk nicely and civil and will get a backlash and then I can stand up for myself and someone else will have to step in and literally take me out of the situation.

I really, truly believe that she wants me to hate her. Heck she has pushed me out so many times now and especially after my father died that I have no other choice but to believe she wants it this way.

After my father died she went to the nurse in her new doctor’s office to refill a prescription and the nurse did, in fact, ask her why she was taking certain prescriptions because she does not need them. Thank goodness that someone is starting to get her to think about what she is taking.

Now if I had the choice of doing it all over again and getting all that backlash from her again……..you bet I would, in a heartbeat.

It has been a year since my father passed away and after calling her a couple of times and being almost hung up on with excuses that she has to go to the bathroom and the last one was when she said that she had to take a nap.  That last one got me so upset that I sat there and cried for about a half an hour.  The first call was over the top.  She tells me that my sister and her family helped a lot that week after dad passed.  My husbnad and I were helping too, but she gave my sister so many accolades and totally ignored that my husband helping too.  That hurt.

June 25, 2015:  Low and behold though she did call me about a month ago and said that she was in a nursing home for three months and then was at my sister's for three more months.  She said that she was thinking about me.  I did not ask her what kinds of things those thoughts were becasue I do n't want to know.  I do not want to get hurt anymore so I don't ask anything or tell her much anymore.  Nothing that I have said to her seems to be the right thing to say. I do not know where she is and I am not going to call her.

My mom said that while in the nursing home she got her cataracts removed and her false teeth redone and they are more comfortable now.  At least someone is getting her health straightened out and that, I am glad for.

I did call my sister to wish her a Happy Mothers Day and also to wish my Mom and Happy Mothers day.  My sister was on vacation in Florida at the time.

This will not stop my writing more about my life and what has happened and happening in it. This is just the most current situation that I have with my mom.

I have had a few tell me that if  one of their children did that and called asking about her meds and ehlth that they wouldn't like it either.  I wouldn't mind my children doing that and my oldest daughter worked with me on my research and we did find out some interesting things.

I did appreciate that very much.

© Debra K. Allen a.k.a Lady Guinevere

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