Sister's Phone Call

I designed my own Business Card and took this photo of the rose bush on my trellis in my front yard.

A very interesting phone call came from my sister about a week or two ago and I was thinking of writing this blog and then not and then decided to do so. She called and said that we had to talk. What she said after that was nothing like a talk.  Telling me off with a bunch of lies is not talking.  She then told me that she has things to say to me and that she was just going to speak them.  Not a thing that she said was true and I don't know where the lies were coming form or why she feels the need to talk to me like I was 12 years old.

She did this same thing to me while sitting at the funeral home when my father died.  I am the oldest but she never treated me as such or even a normal perso but someone to control.  Not going there.  When I first wrote my story she told me to take it down, which I told her NO and a few others got into that as well on-line and in person.

Why I hang up on people.  I hang up on them if there is no way of sticking up for myself and am being fed lies and cannot speak up and explain their lies.  This is what I did to my sister as she would not listen to me as she was yelling at me with her lies.

 
We did not talk, she yelled at me and I hung up on her after trying to explain some things to her.   She called back d I told my husband that I did not want to talk to her and he ended up hanging up on her too.

We had gone to visit with my mom on the way to my doctors appointment and spend the night before there.
First thing she yells is that we are not to go to my moms and expect to be fed.  We never did that and I tried to tell my sister that.  The helpers did that and we thanked them for the meal, of which we never asked for in the first place. It wasn't like mom didn't get any ata all.  She ate Pizza with usa and I thought that was good as she really didn't like much of her food.  It was fun!  The next morning we were told to go to the store to pick up some things.  I had no idea it was for out breakfast and lunch.  I am sure mom got some breakfast after all too and when we had tuna casserole we offered her some and she denied it.  She said that she didn't like tuna.   She also had before at home when we were growing up. That and any other food except the pizza was left there for mom to eat.  It wasn't like it was all just for us two.

Then she goes into a rant about me not having a job and that I don't care for mom. I guess she thought somehow that I did care a lot about my mom and called her every day for about 3 weeks until she got it into her head that I was spreading gossip about her health to others through a nurse, whom I never talked to and didn't know form a hole in the ground.  She would tell me not to be on the Internet period or tell anyone about her and such.  I started hanging up on her when she would get into that and no matter what I said she didn't believe me. That was when I mailed her one of my brochures to show her what I do on the Internet.She finally found out how they knew and it was simple but I never to this day got an apology from her.  That is how she works!  I don't know what she is telling my sister about me or why she thinks that it is a good idea and that I would never know about these things.  I wouldn't if my sister
My sister mentioned that I never called her after my fathers death.  What a crock of bull!  I seriously don't know where that cane from and told her that was not true.

Abut me not having a job and that she took care of mom when she came out of the hospital at which time I was never told that she was even in the hospital.  I did and someone told me that she was in Florida for a couple of weeks and my mom did not both tho let me know that.  My sister's husband told me when I did call and asked to speak to my sister.didn't call me with her lies.

BIG flag with that.  Oh how perfect she is and doesn't know that I called my mom several times at my sister's.  I never got to talk to my sister because her husband told me that she went to Florida for a vacation.....leaving my mom with her husband.  I do call her but many times I had to hang up because of her outburst with something she though that I did and don;t have a clue that I didn't do it at all.  Oh and never an apology to that.

So while visiting my mom, she calls my sister several times when we walked down to visit my Aunt and Uncle.


I don't work for others but myself doing all the work that they do for her job.  My business is for real and it is: Artful Creations by Debra Allen

I work odd hours, mostly when my husband is at work and out of the house.  His job is shift work not a day job.  He hardly gets time off without working at another job.  He loves it that way and loves his jobs and would not give them up for anything except the shift work one.  They currently have him on night shift for whatever reason.  We have only one car and I guess my sister thinks that I can just tale off whenever.  So not true and I told her that too.  Designing my designs for Zazzle's blank products is hard work and the the self advertising that hours.  That is my job, my business. I don't sit and watch TV everyday or night.  I am not a couch potato either!  I just don't care for those things.  I would rather be creative with my designs that Zazzle sells.

Who designs my products? I DO,

Who Arranges the Photos that I take on my products, I DO,

Who advertises my designs on the products, I DO,

Who markets the products, I DO,

Who pays the taxes on the products, I DO,

How long does it take to do all this, MUCH MORe THAN A HOUR

Who makes my business card brochures and thing stationery, I DO,

Who PAYS for all this work, I DO

Do I make lots of money? Heck No not yet anyway.So my sister ranting off at me did not get her noticed and she was being lied to.

I did find something about that kind of things that she is doing and pitting siblings against each other.  It makes sense now and I now what she is and what she is purposefully doing and here is the article to read about it:

How Narcissistic Parents Scapegoat Their Children
What it's like to be targeted by a narcissistic parent.

The permanent scapegoat permits the narcissistic mother to make sense of family dynamics and the things that displease her without ever blemishing her own role as a “perfect” mother, or feeling the need for any introspection or action. She has a ready-made explanation for fractiousness or any other deviation from what she expects her family to look like.


Yes indeed this makes sense as to why she is telling my sister lies about me and telling me not to do the Internet stuff and my blog because nobody is interested in things like that. Yes to cover her butt! Another family member told her what I said on my blog and got me into really big trouble with all family members. I think that I was taken out of my parents will when we were going to have this house and my husband was to say that we would never sell it. My mom controlling actions and words. At this point in time I don't want anything that she has as there is always strings attached! My sister also has power of attorney with my mom's estate and that was one of the things that she pointed out to me on her phone call. She did that on her own and I was never told that she was going to do that and leave me out of things. Leave me out....like I am not supposed to talk or have feelings or even be alive....HUH!!!

So now I know why my dad wanted me write about all this and to keep it going/

I am also being told to do what the doctors tell me and to take the drugs that they Tell me to take....Uh not on your life after I researched them in my previous blog post. I am suppose to just do as she says and my sister to who says the same thing. They want me quiet and for what....just as the article says, so I can keep being the scapegoat. Not now! Noot now that I know for a fact what she is doing and why. Not going to happen.

UPDATE:  My sister still clled me a few other times and once she asked me to be there at Christmas to watch my mom.  I could not and will not because that was set up a long time ago that Christmas was her time and Thanksgiving was my time.  That is the way it is.  She calls me to argue about me stealing food from my mom, which I never have ever done that.  For puishment she told me that she would never tell mre when my mom is in the hospital aby more and all that stuff.  

Another thinkg that I must clear yp is that Mom when she got sick after getting drunk she also told me a vew months ago that she never took another drink after that because it upset her so much witht hat.  Now when I asked my Auntu to tell me that truth she woujldm't and I wonder why. She and my uncle have now passed recently and because of Bovid-19 coulcn't see either of them. Ao aad.

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